Life is really just one big lesson.
We graduate from high school and then college and maybe beyond and think that whooppeee! that is it for learning. Or, at least, that’s what our juvenile selves think (I hear grumbles from my daughters on a nightly basis about homework). In reality, those lessons are just the tip of the iceberg and often have nothing to do with real life as it is honestly experienced. Sorry daughters, much learning left to do.
The school that my daughter attends is pretty diverse. There are kids of all races, religions, and economic brackets, personalities, interests and different home lives. We like this about her school immensely, as it is the very definition of real life to us. Sometimes, my daughter will come home from school and groan about the kids who don’t pay attention and take away from the learning that goes on in the classroom. She tells me about the clowns, the annoyances, the friends. There are those that are tough talking and some students who are lovely. There are those that strive and some who use school as merely a place to waste time. It’s a mixed bag if ever there was one. Then, I gently remind her in my mama-way that this is training for the big wide world.
I tell her that there will be teachers who bore her and teachers who thrill her. She will have co-workers who annoy the sweet bejesus out of her. There will be neighbors who she has to deal with politely. There will be people who enhance her life and make her glow and those who take away from it. There will be the good, the great, the bad and ugly and unfortunately, part of growing up is learning how to deal with every personality type as a mature, sensible, rational adult. There are too many crazies already out there; the world does not need another one.
But these are tough lessons, for unless we move to deserted islands, there will always be people around. And how to navigate them all? Maybe simply turn inward. Work on being your own best person and hopefully a trickle-down-across-and-sideways action will ensue. Observe. Listen to your gut. For pete’s sake, yes, listen to that gut. It never lies. Maneuver around the obstacles and the speed bumps. Keep moving forward and expanding as a thoughtful and inquisitive adult should be.
The rest will fall into line, it always does.
The cream always rises to the top.
“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”-Maya Angelou